It’s OK to Feel Regret
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We’ve all got regrets about missed career opportunities or things we wished we’d done or said. That’s normal. Rather than trying to quash the feeling, you’ve got to make peace with it.
Start by recognizing your emotions and expressing them — even if only to yourself. What past action or inaction is causing you to feel this way? You may even consider grabbing a pen and paper and writing out what exactly you're feeling and why.
Next, try looking to the past with gratitude. Jot down three things you're grateful for to counterbalance the negativity of regret and reframe your outlook. You want to be aware of what you have, not just what you don’t have.
Finally, make regret productive by thinking about what you can (and cannot) do in the future to avoid this feeling again. It may be that the situation was out of your control and there’s little you can do, but if you made a mistake or misstep, use this feeling to change your behavior the next time around.
Translations
🇨🇳 感到遗憾是正常的
我们都会为错过了职业机会而后悔，或者后悔自己做了什么或者说了什么。 这很正常。 与其试图压制这种感觉，你还不如平静下来。
从认识你的情绪开始，即使只对自己表达。是什么过去的行为或不作为导致你有这种感觉?你甚至可以考虑拿起笔和纸，写下你的真实感受和原因。
接下来，试着带着感激回顾过去。写下三件你感激的事情，来平衡遗憾的消极情绪，重塑你的人生观。你要知道你拥有什么，而不仅仅是你没有什么。
最后，想想你将来能做什么(不能做什么)来避免这种感觉再次出现，让后悔变得有意义。也许情况超出了你的控制范围，而你又无能为力，但是如果你犯了错误，下次就利用这种感觉来改变你的行为。
